In 2023, the Surgeon General of the US declared a national loneliness epidemic across the country stating: "It is associated with a greater risk of cardiovascular disease, dementia, stroke, depression, anxiety, and premature death."
Today, loneliness is more than just feeling blue. It's literally a threat to our lives.
I have experienced deep valley's of pain and loneliness in my own life and have worked tirelessly to heal these wounds to become the free, unconstrained social being I am today.
Step 1: Research & Define
Just like a well-designed product starts with user research, successful dating starts with self-research. This phase is about defining personal values, emotional needs, and the kind of connection that truly fits. Without a clear foundation, the dating experience lacks direction and consistency, making it harder to attract the right match.
Step 2: Prototype & Optimize
Great UX design requires prototyping and testing. Dating is no different. This step involves optimizing online profiles, refining conversational style, and ensuring every first impression aligns with what’s truly attractive and authentic. It also includes strategic positioning, so interactions happen in the right spaces—where ideal partners naturally exist.
Step 3: Iterate & Adapt
A strong design process relies on continuous iteration. Every date and interaction provides valuable data: What worked? What didn’t? This step is about recognizing patterns, making small but powerful adjustments, and ensuring dating strategies stay dynamic and results-driven. Instead of repeating frustrating cycles, the process evolves, leading to better matches and deeper connections.
Hello! I'm Tim, a connection coach and founder of The Art of Connection, an organization I launched in 2022. With an MA in Education and years of experience as a user experience designer, I’ve developed a results-driven approach to relationships—rooted in intentional, strategic design.
This approach focuses on literally designing how we connect with others, how they engage with us, and how our relationships function on a broader scale to foster meaningful and lasting success.
Like some of you, I spent much of my life feeling disconnected and relying too heavily on others for happiness. At one point, I didn’t even know who I was. But by intentionally designing and shaping my relationship with myself—creating a personal contract that prevents me from betraying myself—I was able to reclaim my value.
This transformation allowed me to stop comparing myself to others and settle into relationships that truly elevate and inspire me. And today, I help others do the same.
